Mistake
Mistake Current mood: calm Category: Romance and Relationships
So I made the mistake last night of checking out myex-husband's profile here on Myspace... seems he is still enjoying writing, which he's good at it so I am glad he has found a place to continue doing that. But I have to admit I didn't appreciate reading the names he called me in one particular blog.
We've been divorced over 3 years. We have made great strides to become friends but I guess since this blog was just written not even a month ago there's still some issues.
He accused me of giving him an ultimatum .... me or the military. Yes it was basically how I said it but it wasn't how I meant it. But in the heat of the moment things were said that weren't meant. I would never ask him to give up his military career for me.. what I wanted however was for him to care as much about what was going on at home as what was going on where he was at the moment.
He was always volunteering for deployments... never caring what he was going to miss out on at home. Just caring about the HIGH he got when he went into "battle" or just putting on the uniform.
I truly understand his love for this country and his desire to protect us. I love that about him. What I didn't love is he never seemed to love me that much or our daughter.
Military was is and has always been first in his life. I wanted to be first sometimes too ya know. I know that sounds very selfish of me as he put it but that's the way I felt.
So he left found a woman in the military thought it would be all peaches and cream because she would undertand him.. she would embrace his desire to be gone all of the time.
But it back fired on him and now he is divorced from that one too. I am not writing this to be nasty back to him for what he said about me. I am writing this because I still think people have this huge misconception that the grass is truly greener on the other side of the fence.
With my experience, well actually my ex's experience... it wasn't any different. The woman still felt that she wasn't important enough to him. Yes there were other issues involved that helped to destroy that relationship. But when you start a relationship out on a lie do you really think it's going to work?????
I hope he finds truly happiness inside of himself someday so that he can realize that unless that's there he will not be happy and a relationship can not survive if each person is not happy inside of themselves.
So I made the mistake last night of checking out myex-husband's profile here on Myspace... seems he is still enjoying writing, which he's good at it so I am glad he has found a place to continue doing that. But I have to admit I didn't appreciate reading the names he called me in one particular blog.
We've been divorced over 3 years. We have made great strides to become friends but I guess since this blog was just written not even a month ago there's still some issues.
He accused me of giving him an ultimatum .... me or the military. Yes it was basically how I said it but it wasn't how I meant it. But in the heat of the moment things were said that weren't meant. I would never ask him to give up his military career for me.. what I wanted however was for him to care as much about what was going on at home as what was going on where he was at the moment.
He was always volunteering for deployments... never caring what he was going to miss out on at home. Just caring about the HIGH he got when he went into "battle" or just putting on the uniform.
I truly understand his love for this country and his desire to protect us. I love that about him. What I didn't love is he never seemed to love me that much or our daughter.
Military was is and has always been first in his life. I wanted to be first sometimes too ya know. I know that sounds very selfish of me as he put it but that's the way I felt.
So he left found a woman in the military thought it would be all peaches and cream because she would undertand him.. she would embrace his desire to be gone all of the time.
But it back fired on him and now he is divorced from that one too. I am not writing this to be nasty back to him for what he said about me. I am writing this because I still think people have this huge misconception that the grass is truly greener on the other side of the fence.
With my experience, well actually my ex's experience... it wasn't any different. The woman still felt that she wasn't important enough to him. Yes there were other issues involved that helped to destroy that relationship. But when you start a relationship out on a lie do you really think it's going to work?????
I hope he finds truly happiness inside of himself someday so that he can realize that unless that's there he will not be happy and a relationship can not survive if each person is not happy inside of themselves.
posted by makinitcount @ 1:39 PM
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