Drama
Drama (5/23/2006 10:56:30 AM)
I think we've had this discussion before but maybe we should go over this again...k? It's funny how men say.... NO DRAMA. I don't want DRAMA I want someone who knows what they want in life and doesn't have any baggage... First... every single person has baggage or issues from past relationships. Yes, even you. It's not the baggage that causes the problems. It's how you handle the baggage that causes the problems. If you haven't sorted through the baggage and tossed the crap that you could and rearranged the rest to make the best out of it you might not be ready for another relationship. Now this is just my opinion, but experience backs it up. I know a great many men who have WAY more drama then I have ever had. But the men are the first to yell NO DRAMA!!!! Here's just two examples of men in my life with drama. I have more but to keep ya from being bored I will just use these two. I have a really good friend who keeps telling me he hates drama... HATES it... but his life is nothing but drama. Everything that happens is a big event, a huge issue that could be fixed within 5 minutes had he cared to ask me for advice! He wouldn't have any drama in his life if he just learned how to DEAL with things when they happen instead of hoping they will just go away. Another example: Mr. American Singles (see a few blogs back) Nice guy... just had some woman break up with him and tell him that she needs time... BUT they can still be friends. (Don’t ya just hate that speech????) Anyway, I left him a comment on his myspace page that caused her to lash out at him and accuse him of something he didn't do... so I had to take my comment down because it was causing DRAMA for him and her... (The comment was very innocent... but it could have been taken one of two ways... obviously she picked the wrong way! ) Just kind of funny if they are just friends why would she be all bent out of shape about another friend saying something nice to him? hm? When I look back over my life, I see that I used to have some wicked drama in my life... of course at the time I was going through a divorce and being treated for thyroid cancer... and I didn't handle either one of those things all that great, at least not in the beginning. And yes I tried to have relationships during that time. WHAT THE HECK was I thinking???? I realized that I needed to take time to sort through the baggage and threw out what I could and rearranged the rest so I could make the best out of it. I think there's many people out there, who need to take a step or two back, sort, throw, rearrange and then get back in the ballgame. But if you don't take the time to do those things then yea, there is going to be major drama. So to the people who scream no drama no baggage maybe you should check your baggage over before accusing someone else of carrying too much. You just might find you need to sort through some of your own.
I think we've had this discussion before but maybe we should go over this again...k? It's funny how men say.... NO DRAMA. I don't want DRAMA I want someone who knows what they want in life and doesn't have any baggage... First... every single person has baggage or issues from past relationships. Yes, even you. It's not the baggage that causes the problems. It's how you handle the baggage that causes the problems. If you haven't sorted through the baggage and tossed the crap that you could and rearranged the rest to make the best out of it you might not be ready for another relationship. Now this is just my opinion, but experience backs it up. I know a great many men who have WAY more drama then I have ever had. But the men are the first to yell NO DRAMA!!!! Here's just two examples of men in my life with drama. I have more but to keep ya from being bored I will just use these two. I have a really good friend who keeps telling me he hates drama... HATES it... but his life is nothing but drama. Everything that happens is a big event, a huge issue that could be fixed within 5 minutes had he cared to ask me for advice! He wouldn't have any drama in his life if he just learned how to DEAL with things when they happen instead of hoping they will just go away. Another example: Mr. American Singles (see a few blogs back) Nice guy... just had some woman break up with him and tell him that she needs time... BUT they can still be friends. (Don’t ya just hate that speech????) Anyway, I left him a comment on his myspace page that caused her to lash out at him and accuse him of something he didn't do... so I had to take my comment down because it was causing DRAMA for him and her... (The comment was very innocent... but it could have been taken one of two ways... obviously she picked the wrong way! ) Just kind of funny if they are just friends why would she be all bent out of shape about another friend saying something nice to him? hm? When I look back over my life, I see that I used to have some wicked drama in my life... of course at the time I was going through a divorce and being treated for thyroid cancer... and I didn't handle either one of those things all that great, at least not in the beginning. And yes I tried to have relationships during that time. WHAT THE HECK was I thinking???? I realized that I needed to take time to sort through the baggage and threw out what I could and rearranged the rest so I could make the best out of it. I think there's many people out there, who need to take a step or two back, sort, throw, rearrange and then get back in the ballgame. But if you don't take the time to do those things then yea, there is going to be major drama. So to the people who scream no drama no baggage maybe you should check your baggage over before accusing someone else of carrying too much. You just might find you need to sort through some of your own.
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