Are you staying in the past or moving on?
Are you staying in the past or moving on? (6/2/2006 1:37:54 PM)
I've started to write several different times this morning and keep getting interrupted or my train of thought veers off the darn track and I end up meshing three or four topics together and that's just not very pleasant is it?
I have been dealing with my sister all morning. If you read my previous blogs I mentioned that my sister and mom have not been talking and I have been encouraging my sister to reach out to mom and tell her how she feels without me getting in the middle.
Well I have good news... I am no longer in the middle. It seems that I have taken center stage.
My sister has found it necessary to inform me that I understand nothing about what has happened in her life and therefore do not have a right to tell her to get over it and let it go.
My favorite saying ya know. "Get over it!" “Let it Go” It’s how the healing starts people.
Sometimes things happen in our lives that we have no control over. It can be something simple to the horrific. No one says that you do not have the right to hurt and grieve and have issues with those circumstances that took place. But it's your choice on how you deal with it.
I know that I have written on this subject several times. But maybe it needs to be repeated for someone out there who hasn't gotten it yet.
Dragging the past or the extra baggage around with you day in and day out isn't getting you anywhere. For your own sake deal with the past, put it in its place and move on. No one enjoys being around a negative person.
My sister insists she has done this, but every time we try to form some kind of civil relationship she drags her past into the picture and I get annoyed and say things I maybe shouldn't but I am tired of listening to the pity party garbage.
We all have had things happen to us that were horrible and shouldn't have. But it happened. Work through it, get over it and then dispose of it. Once you throw something away and it heads off to the incinerator it's too late to get it back so why try to bring the past back? If we treat it like the trash we throw away it will never come back to us. Sounds simple huh?
I know that the past comes back to haunt all of us from time to time. But please for your own sake get to a place where you can be strong enough to accept the past for what it is and move on into the present. So many of us continue to live in the past and are missing out on the present.
I hope someone gets something out of this, because unfortunately my sister did not. Except to continue to tell me I have no clue what she went through. No I didn't go through it personally but I know that what happened isn't an excuse for what goes wrong today.
For thirty years she has blamed everything that has gone wrong in her life on the person who did her wrong. I don't know about you but I can't live like that. It takes too much energy to stay mad at someone.
I like to be in control of my life. I don't like to allow anyone else the control over my emotions. Wouldn't it be great if everyone learned that? Just imagine how nice it would be to live in a world where we didn't blame others for what goes wrong in our life.
So you staying in the past? Or moving on?
I've started to write several different times this morning and keep getting interrupted or my train of thought veers off the darn track and I end up meshing three or four topics together and that's just not very pleasant is it?
I have been dealing with my sister all morning. If you read my previous blogs I mentioned that my sister and mom have not been talking and I have been encouraging my sister to reach out to mom and tell her how she feels without me getting in the middle.
Well I have good news... I am no longer in the middle. It seems that I have taken center stage.
My sister has found it necessary to inform me that I understand nothing about what has happened in her life and therefore do not have a right to tell her to get over it and let it go.
My favorite saying ya know. "Get over it!" “Let it Go” It’s how the healing starts people.
Sometimes things happen in our lives that we have no control over. It can be something simple to the horrific. No one says that you do not have the right to hurt and grieve and have issues with those circumstances that took place. But it's your choice on how you deal with it.
I know that I have written on this subject several times. But maybe it needs to be repeated for someone out there who hasn't gotten it yet.
Dragging the past or the extra baggage around with you day in and day out isn't getting you anywhere. For your own sake deal with the past, put it in its place and move on. No one enjoys being around a negative person.
My sister insists she has done this, but every time we try to form some kind of civil relationship she drags her past into the picture and I get annoyed and say things I maybe shouldn't but I am tired of listening to the pity party garbage.
We all have had things happen to us that were horrible and shouldn't have. But it happened. Work through it, get over it and then dispose of it. Once you throw something away and it heads off to the incinerator it's too late to get it back so why try to bring the past back? If we treat it like the trash we throw away it will never come back to us. Sounds simple huh?
I know that the past comes back to haunt all of us from time to time. But please for your own sake get to a place where you can be strong enough to accept the past for what it is and move on into the present. So many of us continue to live in the past and are missing out on the present.
I hope someone gets something out of this, because unfortunately my sister did not. Except to continue to tell me I have no clue what she went through. No I didn't go through it personally but I know that what happened isn't an excuse for what goes wrong today.
For thirty years she has blamed everything that has gone wrong in her life on the person who did her wrong. I don't know about you but I can't live like that. It takes too much energy to stay mad at someone.
I like to be in control of my life. I don't like to allow anyone else the control over my emotions. Wouldn't it be great if everyone learned that? Just imagine how nice it would be to live in a world where we didn't blame others for what goes wrong in our life.
So you staying in the past? Or moving on?
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