Clingy people

Let’s first define what “cling” means ..shall we?

Cling
1.To hold fast or adhere to something, as by grasping, sticking, embracing, or entwining: clung to the rope to keep from falling; fabrics that cling to the body.
2.To remain close; resist separation: We clung together in the storm.
3.To remain emotionally attached; hold on: clinging to outdated customs.

Ever notice how sometimes the very thing that we do to others is the very thing that DRIVES us crazy when it’s done to us??????

I used to have someone in my life that thought I was clingy and pushy. After a two month separation from this person we have been back in touch.

At first I found myself wanting constant contact with him, mainly because I had questions and I wanted answers… and I wanted them NOW! That’s just who I am!

Of course this made him feel I was getting back into the pushy clingy thing again. And because he wasn’t answering my questions I felt he was also getting into the shutting me out not talking thing again.

It’s a vicious circle with us it seems, probably why it didn’t work in the first place, neither one of us was willing to bend and change our behavior for the other one, but that doesn’t mean the circle can’t be broken and turned around. Right?

I have noticed, if I ignore or don’t have contact with him for a while he will contact me and want to talk. This makes it seem like a control issue, huh? And it might be.

I think there are a great number of people out there that have issues from previous relationships and they tend to change at least some part of them so that the mistakes are not repeated. In his case he had no control… now he wants it all.

I have to say after the past few weeks I now completely and truly understand where he is coming from with feeling I am clingy at times… and I will stop doing that to him! Because it’s VERY ANNOYING!

I was under the impression that women are the only ones who tend to be clingy and pushy…. But WRONG! (I know this is about the third time I have admitted to being wrong about something… don’t get too used to it… k?)

I have more men friends then I do female and out of those friends I have noticed that many of them are very clingy.… (And very pushy).

They will call and text many many many times in one day. WHY? If I didn’t respond to you the first time you called, and said call me, or sent a text and said call me, there is a reason for it. (just like there was a reason for my ex to not respond to my 20 messages in a day! lol are you getting the picture?)

I might be busy… I might not have my phone with me… or my phone might not be working properly. (Nextel isn’t known for great service... just great direct connect features! ) or I just might not want to talk to you or anyone at the moment, nothing personal but I am not desperate to have someone in my life that I have to be glued to my phone or my computer.

I do not and will not EVER call back ANYONE, male or female that can not leave more then a “call me” message on my voice mail. If it’s important enough for me to return your call, then it’s important enough for you to give me some kind of hint about what you want to talk about, it’s called being courteous, don’t ya think?

Even if you are only calling to see how I am… if it’s asking too much to leave a little detail then maybe we aren’t a good fit, friends or otherwise.